Erica & Steve’s Red, Black, and Horror-ific Punk Rock Pirate Wedding
Hello Friday! By the time you read this I’ll be miles away from my desktop enjoying the first day of a short holiday in Tokyo, Japan with my husband… BUT! I’m still here in spirit to share a totally unique and creative wedding.
Steve is a drummer in a punk rock band, Erica is a horror photographer and special effects make-up artist. The two of them love all things Pirate. He proposed to her at the Denver Museum of Nature and Science during their big Pirate exhibit — he had a special engraved sign created that said “Will You Marry Me?” and had it hung in the museum so that she would see it as they went through the exhibit. How sweet was that? Thus their theme “Punk Rock Pirate” was born. They wed in an outdoor space at the Arrowhead Golf Club in Littleton, Colorado against majestic views of the rocky mountains and April O’Hare Photography was there to capture all the love, punk rock, and pirate awesomeness that went on.
These two are a match made in punk rock heaven! I’ll let the lovely Erica tell you more about Steve and herself:
My husband (that is still so weird to say, but in a good way of course) is a punk rock drummer. He plays in the known Denver punk rock band The Potato Pirates. He is quite amazing if I do say so myself. My main dish is being a horror photographer served with a side of special effects make-up artistry. Naturally I am a huge horror buff so I turned it into my career. Who wants a job that they hate?
We are both artists and LOVE to put on a show if you will. We are both the black sheep in our families, which oddly enough both of our families fully support and love us for it. We live in Denver with our pet hedgehog, Lemmy. We named him after the bassist from Motorhead. Lemmy was actually a wedding gift to us! How amazing of a gift is that? Anyway, we rock, we roll and we enjoy our life together as Mr. and Mrs. Stackhouse.
And from this point on, Erica will take us through all the awesome details and personal touches they incorporated into their wedding, starting from the reason behind their quirky theme…:
The theme for our wedding was “Punk Rock Pirate.” Our colors were Black and Red. We have both had obsessions with pirates our entire lives so we decided it had to be a part of what was to be the best day of our lives. Another reason for the pirate part of the theme is that Steve actually proposed to me at the Pirate exhibit that came to Denver a year or so ago. He had the entire Museum staff in on it! It was this amazing and elaborate exhibit at the Denver Museum of Nature and Science about the Slave ship turned pirate ship called the Whydah. The proposal story can actually be found here.
The punk rock part was because that is who we are. It’s the community we love, with the people we adore, and the music we dance to. Our first dance song was a Social D song for crying out loud!
We had red lanterns lining the aisle along with pictures. The pictures were each from a different age. It started with a baby picture and then we grew up as you walked further down the aisle. My side was me growing up and Steve’s side was him growing up.
Our ceremony was performed by my Brother-in-Law. I’ve known him forever and he has always been one of my best friends. He is in the military and he was sent to Korea (till recently, YAY!) and we were lucky enough that he was able to take leave to come home to be a part of this.
During the ceremony, we put together a fight box. We both wrote love letters to each other to put in the box. We also took a shot of whisky and put the bottle in the box along with the shot glasses. We then nailed it shut. When we have a fight, we open the box, take a shot and go to separate rooms and read the letters as a reminder of how much we love each other.
I had to add a few hints of my horror background. The bloody nails, which was actually done by our tattoo artist who was also one of the groomsmen, the bloody shoes which Steve actually bought for me as a gift when we first started dating. They were the last pair in my size. They were discontinued and he found them!
I also made the bridesmaid’s jewelry. The necklace that I wore was borrowed from one of my bridesmaids and I wore a 1920?s bracelet that was owned by my step mom’s grandmother.
We had old ship and graveyard lanterns as center pieces with chocolate pieces of eight as the take home gift. We also had treasure chests on each table and one large one for the cards.
Steve and I had a lot of friends and family to help us with the decor. The Bridesmaid’s bouquets were created by 2 of my bridesmaids and myself. The boutonnieres were made by the best man, David Stackhouse who owns his own fly tying company called The Anglers’ Knot . Steve did all of the engraving himself since he works at his family’s company Farmers Engraving when he’s not touring as a drummer.
And then there was the bloody cake. Our cake knife was a butchers knife with blood dripping from the blade. We made sure the cake would bleed when we smashed it in our faces. That was actually my Dad’s idea. He clearly knows us well.
I like to think that pretty much everything about our wedding was uniquely ours. Like I said, our first dance song was “Diamond in the Rough” by Social Distortion. The first time we heard it, we knew it had to be ours. In the middle of the dance the best man, David, threw blow up guitars at us and we just started rocking out. It was great fun!
And finally, some parting advice from the rocker couple:
Thank Everyone! Especially those involved from the start. Remember, these people had to put up with your craziness and watch you freak out over nothing just for everything to fall into place the way it’s supposed to. Also, make sure you hire people that would understand you and your quirky lifestyle. Our photographer is a Roller Derby girl (how cool is she?), our videographer, or cinematographer as he likes to call himself, works for a haunted house company with me and our DJ is an avid supporter of the local punk rock scene! Lastly, make sure you spend plenty of alone time with each other leading up to the wedding. With all the commotion going on, you don’t want to forget why you are doing all of this in the first place. We would run away for a night or two here and there and go on dates with our phones off. It gives you a “feel good” attitude all over again.
Thank you April for sending this refreshingly unique wedding my way, and congratulations Erica and Steve! Here’s wishing the two of you a lifetime of bliss.
Photography: April O’Hare Photography
Reception Venue: Arrowhead Golf Club
Invitation Designer: Magnet Street
Dress Store: David’s Bridal
Dress Designer: Gallina’s Signature Collection
Bridesmaids Dress Shop: D’Anneli in Lakewood
Bridesmaid’s Dress Designer: B2 by Jasmine
Cake Designer: The Makery Cake Co.
Cake Topper: Hi-fiving couple bought from Amazon.com
DJ: Jeff from ROCKCANDY
Jewelry: (by the bride)
Veil: Powder Blue Bijoux from Etsy
Suits: Men’s Wearhouse
Videography: Tye Olmstead and Will Kelley
Officiant: Erica’s brother in law Sgt. Kristopher Urban officiated the ceremony
Hair: JC Penney Salon in Park Meadows
Make up: Clinique at Park Meadows
Image submission via Two Bright Lights
Tags: garden weddings, non-traditional weddings, outdoor weddings