Meta & Ian’s Funky Red & White Wedding With Retro Flair
And it’s Friday once again! Before we hit the weekend, I’d like to share this funky yet inspiringly simple celebration. All Meta & Ian really wanted was to celebrate their marriage among loved ones in a party with “good food, good booze, loud music and louder laughter”… and that was exactly what they did. Their wedding wasn’t “by the book” for the sake of being different — they simply wanted to incorporate special touches that actually meant something to them, be they private vows, a historic unusual venue (the chapel is in a cemetery), or a Father-Daughter dance set to a Kermit the Frog tune. I also love how Meta styled herself in a 1950s dress accented with bright pops of red via her tulle slip, shoes and rose tattoo sleeves!
We have Shanti Duprez of Portrait Design by Shanti to thank for sending me the beautiful images. Please enjoy!
How adorable is Meta??? From here on out I would like to let her tell you all about herself & Ian and their wedding in her own words:
Ian and I met in one our home town’s dirtiest dive bars and bonded over a mutual love of Jarvis Cocker and good bourbon. Ian is a software engineer who loves live music, comic books and beer. Much, much beer. He is the only dude I have ever met who has seen more Audrey Hepburn films than I have. I’m a hairdresser who loves cooking and crafting. I occasionally destroy him at board games and make a pretty mean cup of tea. Four years of dating, one grumpy dog and a move to beautiful Oakland later, we got engaged. Ian and I are low key people who enjoy simple things. Good food, good booze, loud music and louder laughter. We knew that we wanted a wedding to reflect these kind of simple values.
Ian and I felt that as important as a public declaration of commitment is, we wanted to keep some things just between us. During the ceremony we exchanged sealed envelopes that held private vows we had written to each other that we opened together later that night. Having those vows written down as a physical reminder of our ceremony and our commitment means a lot to both of us. We decided early on that we were going to focus on the things we enjoy about weddings and let things we didn’t feel were necessary go.
We wanted dramatic venues so that we could use very few, high impact touches as opposed to many tiny things that would have driven us crazy. Having the ceremony in a 100 year old chapel in a historic grave yard and the reception in a Victorian Mansion made that pretty easy.
We were married by Ian’s unofficial uncle and chose to have three “best men” and three “maids of awesome” (my friends are honorable, yes, but are more importantly awesome). Between my mom and Ian’s sister playing day-of coordinator’s we never found out if anything didn’t go exactly according to plan. We wanted a celebration that focused on home and between our choice of venues, vendors and our family and friends, that’s exactly what we got.
We didn’t have a solid theme to our wedding and that was by design. In my line of work I have been behind the scenes of weddings enough to know that obsessing about every detail fitting into one specific theme can cause a lot of unnecessary stress and take away from the point of the day: Hanging out with your favorite person for the rest of your life.
We knew we wanted to highlight Oakland venues and businesses, we both work for small local companies and supporting local business is important to us. We love where we live and felt it was important to put our money where our heart is. What wasn’t from a local vendor was put together by our amazing friends and families. The flower vases were bottles that friends had saved for us, the sangria was made by Ian’s father and step mom. My brother hand bound our guest book.
We designed our celebration to encourage people to interact. We decided to have food and drink laid out around the house and cocktail tables as opposed to assigned seating and one large meal.
The house we rented for the reception had a strict no smoking rule and since Ian enjoys the occasional cigar, we brought in rugs and chairs and a few small tables and built a smoking lounge in the adjacent parking lot.
We made our own playlist for the wedding using a lap top and speakers generously donated by musician friends. My dad, who had not danced in public since he married my mother 30 years before indulged me with a father-daughter dance set to “The Rainbow Connection” as sung by Kermit the Frog. Ian pulled his mom out on the dance floor where all eight of our left feet danced together.
Words of advice from the lovely couple:
Celebrate the things that make you happy on your wedding day. Those precious hours go by too quickly to spend them worrying whether the table cloths are the right shade of Periwinkle. Focus on the things you enjoy about weddings you have been to in the past, everyone’s wedding is just the greatest hits of everyone else’s weddings, so go nuts, have fun, let the process be a little messy and trust that it will all work out. Every time we got frustrated with the planning process or felt overwhelmed we reminded ourselves that we were lucky enough to have found each other and we get to hang out together forever. Jordan almonds and floral arrangements don’t make or break a wedding. I can safely say that our wedding is the best party I’ve ever been to and I got to walk out on the arm of the coolest guy I know. Lucky, lucky me.
Thank you Shanti for sending this delightfully quirky wedding my way, and congratulations Meta and Ian! Here’s wishing you a lifetime of married bliss! 🙂
Photographers: Shanti Duprez of Portrait Design by Shanti and Simone Anne
Ceremony site: Tower Chapel at Mountain view Cemetery, Oakland CA
Reception site: The Cameron-Stanford House
Dress Store: The Wedding Party
Hair: Amanda Peralta and Deanna Smith
Cupcakes: Katrina Stewart (not for hire)
Food: Anne-Marie Ramo
Rentals: Event Magic
Image submission via Two Bright Lights